“I don’t want to hug Papa.”

This is one of the hardest things for me to deal with as a parent. Dyson is 3 years old and spends almost all of his time with Tracy. And they just got back from a 2 week trip to visit her parents. So naturally, he’s much more attached to her than he is to me. It also doesn’t help that things at work have been pretty rough lately and I’ve been spending some late nights there.

It’s natural and I completely understand, but it hurts. He’s just a kid, he doesn’t mean anything by it. And maybe at some point, it’ll switch. But for now, he pushes me away when I try to comfort him if he’s upset or just asks for Mama if I try to help.

Still, I know that I should keep trying and keep on being there for him even if he doesn’t want me to be. I take him on trips out of the house on the weekends even though it’d be easier to disengage and just let him stay home with his mom. Because it’s the right thing to do. But sometimes it’s hard.

8 Responses to ““I don’t want to hug Papa.””

  1. Christian Says:

    hey mach, someday your son read this post, smile and think …. what a great dad i have. in july i’ll be a father too and man let me tell you, you are a great dad. i enjoy your youtube vids all the time. so keep on and be brave!

    christian from germany! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. Christian Says:

    sorry mach! ^^ can you change it?!

  3. Mach Says:

    Heh, thanks Christian. And edited for you. =)

  4. Tami Says:

    ๅคงใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใฏใ€ใใ‚ŒใŒๆ™ฎ้€šใงใ™ใ€‚ใจใใซไฝ“่ชฟใŒๆ‚ชใ„ๆ™‚ใฏใ€ใ‚ˆใ‘ใ„ใซใƒžใƒžใซใชใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
    ๅคงใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใŒใ‚‚ใฃใจๆˆ้•ทใ™ใ‚Œใฐใ€ใƒ‘ใƒ‘ใฎๅ‡บ็•ชใงใ™ใ€‚
    ๅฝผใŒใƒ‘ใƒ‘ใ‚’ๅฟ…่ฆใจใ™ใ‚‹ๆ™‚ใŒๆฅใพใ™ใ€‚ใใฎๆ™‚ใ€ใ—ใฃใ‹ใ‚Šใจๅ—ใ‘ๆญขใ‚ใฆใ‚ใ’ใฆใญใ€‚
    ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่‰ฏใใ‚„ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ๆ„Ÿๅฟƒใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
    May God bless you !

    Love,
    Tami

  5. Mach Says:

    Thanks, Mom. I wonder if we were like that as kids, too.

  6. Tami Says:

    Bill hardly did anything like you do to Daichan now.
    ใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’้€ฃใ‚ŒใฆใŠใฐใ‚ใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใฎใŠ่ฆ‹่ˆžใ„ใซไธ‰ใƒถๆœˆใปใฉใ€ๆ—ฅๆœฌใซ่กŒใฃใฆๅธฐใฃใฆๆฅใŸใจใใ€็ฉบๆธฏใซๅ‘ใ‹ใˆใซๆฅใฆใใ‚ŒใŸใŠ็ˆถใ•ใ‚“ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ€ๆณฃใใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ใ—ใฐใ‚‰ใ่ฆ‹ใชใ‹ใฃใŸใฎใงใ‚ใ™ใ‚ŒใŸใฎใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€Billใฏใ‚ใชใŸใจๅŒใ˜ๆ€ใ„ใ‚’ใ—ใŸใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใญใ€‚ใ€€
    ใ‚ใชใŸ้”ใŒใ‚‚ใฃใจๅคงใใๆˆใฃใฆใ‹ใ‚‰ใฏใ€ไธ€็ท’ใซ้Šใ‚“ใงใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ใงใ‚‚ใƒ—ใƒผใƒซใงใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ๏ผ–ใƒถๆœˆใใ‚‰ใ„ใ‹ใ‚‰๏ผˆ่‡ชๅˆ†ใงๅ‹•ใไบ‹ใŒๅ‡บๆฅใ‚‹้ ƒใ‹ใ‚‰๏ผ‰ใ€ไธ€็ท’ใซๆณณใ„ใงใใ‚Œใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ใใฎ้ ƒใฏใ€ๅ›ฒใ„ใฎใ•ใใŒ็„กใใƒ—ใƒผใƒซใซ่ฝใกใŸใ‚‰ๅฑ้™บใชใฎใงใ€ๆณณใ’ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใจๆ€ใฃใŸใฎใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
    ๅคงใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใฏใ€็”ทใฎๅญใงใ™ใ€‚ใŠ็ˆถใ•ใ‚“ใŒๅฟ…่ฆใชๆ™‚ใŒ็ตถๅฏพใซๆฅใพใ™ใ€‚ใ„ใคใ‚‚ๆš–ใ‹ใ„ๅฟƒใง่ฆ‹ๅฎˆใฃใฆใ‚ใ’ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใใฃใจ้€šใ˜ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใŸใจใˆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๆ–นใซๅ‘ใ„ใฆใใ‚Œใชใใฆใ‚‚ใ€‚
    ็ฅžๆง˜ใ‚‚ใ€็ง้”ใŒใฉใ‚“ใชใซๅๆŠ—ใ—ใฆใ‚‚็งใŸใกใ‚’ๆ„›ใ™ใ‚‹ไบ‹ใ‚’ๆญขใ‚ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๆ„Ÿ่ฌใงใ™ใญใ€‚ใใฎๆ„›ใซใ‚€ใใ„ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚

  7. Tami Says:

    You and I went to Japan June20-August12,1973.
    June 9,73 your picture in swimming pool with Bill.
    It might be your first day of swimming.
    My memory was not clear now sorry.

  8. Mach Says:

    Thanks. I forgot about that story. And your memory is clearer than mine. =)